SURPRISES

saya termasuk salah satu orang yg suka kejutan, baik itu dari saya atau saya yang mengalaminya. tapi yang pasti kejutan yang manis yang saya prefer :)

ada beberapa kejutan yang saya alami belakangan ini:

1. salah satu orang yang saya percaya, mengkhianati saya. mungkin kata itu lebih tepat disebut berbohong? sorry, I can't find the best word to describe it :(. sakit sekali rasanya. dan rasa sakit itu lebih terasa karena saya tidak mengetahui langsung dari dia. all in all, saya merasa kepercayaan saya disalahgunakan
pf: guess you know who you are. and mama gor is really disappointed...i'm sorry, too

eerr...that's not a good introduction though...unfortunately, it came at the wrong time...begitulah..saya tidak menyangka kejutan yang saya dapat itu berupa kejutan menyedihkan..but..i'm doing fine now...

2. salah satu sepupu dekat memberikan kabar bahagia. dan lagi", berita ini adalah bahwa dia sudah menikah. walaaah...saya sampai bengong. kok saya tidak diberitahu? ternyata cuma formalnya saja sekarang. resminya desember nanti. hui...i'm sooo happy for you...dan tiba" ibu saya mengirim pesan singkat ke ponsel saya, bertanya apa saya bisa meluangkan waktu untuk pulang liburan ini karena (lagi") sepupu saya yang lain akan menikah.
saya diam, dan mikir, " apa emang orang" seumuran g lagi waktunya menikah yach?"
hehehe....

3. my happy was last two weeks :) penuh kejutan...selain dari Under 8's week tentunya ... (pf: you know who you are..thank you!!! you made my day)

4. and ini adalah surprise paling surprise dari semua. salah satu anak di kelas saya tidak pernah ngomong, kalau ngomong juga ala kadarnya sekali. dan hal lain yang juga membuat kami kelimpungan adalah. dia tidak suka makan buah. padahal kami selalu memberikan buah sebagai salah satu menu setiap harinya. bingung kan? orang tuanya sendiri juga sudah menyerah dalam hal ini.

sampai pada minggu lalu...
James (nama anak ini) datang pagi". dia tersenyum kepada saya dan SURPRISE, dia menyapa saya, " Hi, Tanti. How are you???"
singkat, tapi itu memberikan atmosphere berbeda untuk hari itu.
Dia tidak hanya menyapa saya, semua orang di sekolah disapa dengan muka berseri-seri. I can't describe how I felt that day..yang pasti saya senang sekali....
dan surprise lain adalah...
dia mau makan buah!! ya ampuuun...kami mencoba pura" tidak melihat itu. karena biasanya anak" kalau semakin diperhatikan cenderung berhenti :P. salah satu dari kami bertanya, "James, do you like the fruits?"...wah..kami sudah was" siapa tahu dia 'sadar' kalau dia makan buah hari itu..ternyata perkiraan kami salah. dia malah balas menjawab seperti ini, "Yes, It's yummy..." tetap dengan mimik tersenyum dan melanjutkan makan :)

kami hanya saling bermain mata saja waktu itu..tapi kami tau...masing" dari kami lega...
ternyata sabar itu ada hikmahnya yach...kami hampir putus asa soalnya untuk kasus dia ini.

well, surprise ternyata bisa membawa suasana berbeda yach..mau itu surprise yang menyedihkan atau menggembirakan...can't wait for another surprises to come ^_^

UNDER 8's WEEK, 2005

LEAP INTO LIFE– What an Amazing Day!!!

Hari sabtu kemarin (tgl 21 mei), di kampus diadakan kegiatan 'Under 8's Week'. yaitu annual program dari ECA
untuk anak" di bawah umur 8 tahun. tapi juga tidak menutup kemungkinan untuk anak" usia lebih lanjut utk bergabung. acara ini lebih tepat dikatakan acara keluarga di akhir pekan, *byo and fun family picnic* :)

saya ikut ambil bagian dalam kepanitiaan itu. Hmm....i had so much fun ...capek sih tapi senangnya itu mengalahkan segalanya.

kami membuat beberapa kegiatan, seperti, art& Craft, science, shadow puppets, bubbles blowing, clay, face painting, acknowledge about diversity and disability, threading, tree mobile experience, musical obstacle course, junior musical performance, painting, chalk drawing, drama performance...dan masih banyak lagi

With a magical venue, and the most gorgeous weather we could hope for, the experiences and environment we created provided more than 400 children and families with the opportunity to interact, play and enjoy children and learning.
Thanks God :)

The sound of laugher and the joy on the faces of both children and adults was more than enough reward for the huge efforts that we all put in. To think that we're able to create an opportunity or event which brought such enjoyment to so many people was overwhelming and emotionally fulfilling. fuiih....senang sekali rasanya melihat keceriaan di wajah mereka....sampai" tidak tega rasanya 'mengusir' mereka untuk pulang ^_^

Dan...walaupun kami tidak mengharapkan ucapan apapun dari mereka...banyak dari mereka bereaksi seperti ini dalam perjalanan pulang..

"Thank you. We had so much fun today. Looking forward for the same event next year"
or
"It’s been such a fantastic experience for us!!! We hope you guys will have more games and activities in the next event"

dan banyak reaksi" lainnya.

dari kami semua...

"Thank you for coming. It's been such a great pleasure to have you all with us today. It was a privilege to participate in event which brought us together, to showcase our work and collaborate with other early childhood organisations within the community' :)

it's meant to be sent on Fri (20.05.2005)

I just want to congrat my dear friend for her wedding today.

4: Di&Baki.. I'm so sorry I could not be there on your special day. Wish you happily ever after. Hope your wish for me will come true as well ^_^
lov ya..........

The World's Greatest

I am a mountain
I am a tall tree
I am a swift wind
Sweeping the country
I am a river
Down in the valley
I am a vision
And I can see clearly
If anybody asks u who I am
Just stand up tall look them in the Face and say

I'm that star up in the sky
I'm that mountain peak up high
I made it
I'm the worlds greatest
And I'm that little bit of hope
When my backs against the ropes
I can feel it
I'm the worlds greatest

I am a giant
I am an eagle
I am a lion
Down in the jungle
I am a marching band
I am the people
I am a helping hand
And I am a hero
If anybody asks u who I am
Just stand up tall look them in the Face and say

I'm that star up in the sky
I'm that mountain peak up high
I made it
I'm the worlds greatest
And I'm that little bit of hope
When my backs against the ropes
I can feel it
I'm the worlds greatest

setiap lagi down saya sering mendengarkan lagu ini. Salah satu dari banyak lagu yang memiliki makna tersendiri buat saya. It helps, walaupun terdengar klasik tapi tetap saja kadang lagu, support dan motivasi or whatsoever things do help. Lagu ini memang tidak sepenuhnya selalu sesuai dengan apa yang saya rasakan tapi lagu ini selalu membuat saya berpikir.....bahwa it's just the matter of time..for everything....that I'm one of the world's greatest creation..and i'm special.. ^_^

kalau lagi down, atau kehilangan semangat..lagu apa yang kembali memotivasi kalian untuk kembali bersemangat dan tersenyum?

I cannot teach anybody anything, I can only make them think.

the question is: how far and deep can I?
*sigh*

*Socrates*

SADAKO

apa yang paling diingat mengenai SADAKO?

pasti sebagian besar dari kamu mengira Sadako adalah tokoh hantu di film The Ring


memang betul...dan salah juga di sisi lain...
karena Sadako selain tokoh hantu itu...juga merupakan salah satu tokoh yang dibanggakan oleh masyarakat Jepang...

dan this little Sadako ini jugalah yang membuat hari" saya belakangan ini berkutat tidak jelas tapi exciting (confuse? you'd better not :P)
huaaaaaaaaa.....karena sadako adalah studi kasus literacy yang saya kerjakan untuk salah satu course *aka ECH Literacy in Education* yang saya pelajari semester ini....

untuk tokoh Sadako dalam film The Ring..sebagian besar pasti sudah paham dan tau detailnya. Saya sendiri tidak begitu mengikuti Sadako versi the Ring...karena terus terang saja, saya tidak suka film horor... :)

I'd like to tell you a brief story about Sadako ..this Sadako


cerita Sadako ini sendiri terjadi pada jaman perang dunia kedua yang terjadi di Jepang. Nama lengkapnya Sadako Sasaki. Ia baru berumur 3 thn pada saat bom atom di jatuhkan di Hiroshima pada tanggal 6 Agustus 1945. Kita semua tau, peristiwa itu merupakan salah satu peristiwa terbesar dalam sejarah (Masih ingat sejarah tentang itu bukan??? hmm everyone learned about PSPB or Sejarah umum i reckon..)

dan dari begitu banyaknya korban dari bom tersebut, Sadako adalah salah satunya. Radiasi bom tersebut dikenal dasyat. Pada saat bom dijatuhkan, Sadako hanya berada 1.5mil dari lokasi kejadian.

She was initially unharmed, but the effects appeared later.....

In 1955 to be precise, she was diagnosed with Leukemia, a cancer of the blood. This disease became so common in Japan, that in was called the "A-bomb" disease.

After she had become sick, Sadako’s best friend told her that the crane, which is a sacred bird in Japan, grants a wish to someone who folds one thousand paper cranes.

Sadako mulai membuat burung"an ini dan dia hanya membuat satu permintaan saja: Untuk sembuh! karena semenjak sakit, dia tidak bisa mengikuti perlombaan atletik yang sangat dia suka. Tapi hal ini tidak terbukti, sampai akhirnya Sadako membuat permintaan untuk WORLD PEACE

Sadako began to wish instead for world peace, that children could live safe from the effects of wars. Tragisnya, Sadako terlanjur meninggal tanpa menyelesaikan seribu burung kertas. She died in October of 1955. Dia hanya mampu membuat 644 burung saja. Teman"nya menyelesaikan burung itu sejumlah 1000 pada pemakamannya.

After her death, beberapa teman Sadako mulai mengumpulkan dana untuk membuat national peace monument. Monumen ini berhasil dibangun 3thn kemudian di Hiroshima’s National Peace Park. The statue depicts Sadako standing on top of a granite pedestal holding a golden crane in her arms.

At the base of the statue a plaque reads, “This is our cry, this is our prayer, peace in the world.” The children also made a wish which is inscribed at the bottom of the statue After the monument was erected, people from all over the world sent paper cranes to place on the monument for Peace Day on August 6. This tradition has continued and the paper crane has remained a symbol of peace for children around the world. Read more about her story and her statue here


menarik yach? dan terus terang saja membaca cerita ini jauh lebih menarik dari Sadako versi The Ring (sekali lagi tidak bermaksud untuk menyinggung pihak manapun yang 'demen' film horor khususnya The Ring yach....no offence everyone.ini hanya menurut pendapat saya saja)

oaaaaaaam...time to sleep.....good nite everyone..
can't wait for Thursday....I'll tell you more about it later on... ^_^

Happy Mother's day....

hmm...today we celebrate international mother's day...every second sunday in May.

my friends once asked me..have you sent mother's day card to your mum? and i replied..errrr..our mother's day is on every 22nd dec..

and they asked...ooo..i c...but how come it's different from international mother's day?

saya binun jg jawabnya..karena terus terang saja saya memang tidak tahu asal muasal hari ibu di indonesia yang jatuh setiap tgl 22 desember itu...

mother's day has its own history...it's from greek ancient story. ancient greeks celebrated a holiday in honor of Rhea, the mother of the gods. whereas ancient Romans celebrated a holiday in honor of Cybele, a mother goddess, March 22-25 - the celebrations were notorious enough that followers of Cybele were banished from Rome

Christians celebrated this festival on the fourth Sunday in Lent in honor of Mary, mother of Christ. In England this holiday was expanded to include all mothers and was called Mothering Sunday.

pertama kali, orang" memperingati mother's day dengan menulis surat untuk ibu mereka, dan eventually, by sending cards, presents, and flowers ^_^

Mother's Day has flourished in the United States. In fact, the second Sunday of May has become the most popular day of the year to dine out, and telephone lines record their highest traffic, as sons and daughters everywhere take advantage of this day to honor and to express appreciation of their mothers....

jadi kangen yah sama mama....lots of love for my 'mem'..guess it's my mum's nickname hehehe..

apalagi di tengah situasi seperti sekarang ini, saya biasanya selalu mencari perlindungan dan bermanja" dengan mama...memang yach...berapapun umur kita, kita akan selalu menjadi anak kecil yang lemah dan manja kalau sudah bertemu mama...

happy mother's day....

asyiiik...asssyiik...starbucks mo buka lagi di bsm...so?
semakin banyak pilihan aja nih...g ga susah" mesti ke ciwalk kalo mo ngupi"
^_^ ...

setujuh???

maybe..

just maybe...

we can?

Deepest Condolences

baru mendengar kabar ayah salah satu teman dekat saya meninggal tadi pagi.

hmm....death and life is only split-second away....cuma beda sekejap mata menurut salah satu teman....

kita sering tidak menyadari arti hidup, menghindar dan menunda kematian dengan cara apapun. kita sering lupa kalau kematian bisa datang kapan saja, tanpa tanda". it's beyond our reach....

walau bagaimanapun, hidup kita pasti akan berujung pada kematian, eventually.
kita hanya tidak mau peduli akan itu dan terus mencari cara untuk bertahan hidup..

often times, we pray, wish, hope or we so-called 'create' our immortality life..

although we know it's useless..it's out of the window...it's not keeping us away from death...

maka dari itu mungkin jalan terbaik untuk kita adalah sering bersyukur atas apa yang telah kita miliki, berpuas diri dan sadar diri.

life is indeed a precious and valuable gift...be thankful.....

(....deepest condolences for Felix and family...be tough...and God bless)

BLOG

dari beberapa perbincangan dengan teman", salah satu topiknya, kenapa kita menulis blog

hasilnya, uummmm semua bertahan dengan pendapat sendiri", menurut saya pribadi, beberapa di antaranya adalah:

1. saya ingin belajar menulis. To be honest, I don't know how to write :(. I know but I often confuse to express it to text :P, kalau menulispun, ada yang tidak mengerti apa yang saya tulis. butuh waktu untuk mencerna kata mereka. hiks hiks...terlalu banyak yang mau saya tulis jadinya 'ngaco'
kalau kata teman", mulut lebih cepat dari otak, atau kebalikannya yah? *lupa hahahaha*...dan sekarang nambah satu lagi, tangan lebih cepat dari otak. gawat juga.

2. dari blog kita bisa dapat temen baru, kenalan, atau mencoba masuk dalam tulisan yang ingin disampaikan oleh orang lain. belajar 'membaca' orang mungkin salah satu kata yang tepat. kita juga bisa menebak bagaimana kepribadian orang dari tulisan mereka. I found a friend from blog, ternyata kita memiliki kesamaan interest dan saya banyak bertanya untuk bisa sampai stage dimana Beliau lebih dulu masuk ke dalamnya..(for Mas Luigi...thanks for inspiring)

3. melalui blog, kita bisa sharing atau diskusi mengenai banyak topik yang berbeda, dan bagaimana orang" menanggapi issue" tersebut. hal ini lebih keliatan dari komentar yang berbeda-beda untuk blog yang kita posting...

4. tapi dari blog...'rahasia' kita kadang terbongkar juga ^_^....secara tidak langsung terutama lebih kepada apa yang sedang kita pikirkan saat ini, atau apa yang jadi concern. ada yang sering bilang malas membaca blog karena isinya 'curhatan' saja. sebenarnya tergantung dari mana kita melihat bentuk 'curhatan' itu sendiri, kalau memang bermutu, kenapa tidak?

5. arus trend blog mungkin juga salah satu alesan mengapa kita membuat blog, bisa jadi juga kan?

itu beberapa dari banyak alasan kita membuat blog, semua punya alasan tersendiri bukan?

tapi lepas dari semua itu...saya mengagumi orang yang bisa menulis. tidak mesti tulisan ilmiah. bentuk tulisan apapun itu.

yang membuat saya salut adalah cara mereka menterjemahkan apa yang sedang mereka pikirkan dan akan mereka sampaikan kepada orang lain melalu tulisan. dan mereka menyampaikannya dengan baik, sampai orang yang membacanyapun tidak mau berhenti sebelum tulisan itu berakhir.

satu yang saya ingat, orang pintar belum tentu bisa menulis, tapi orang yang bisa menulis (yang bermutu) dan enak dibaca pasti pintar....

well, perjalanan saya menjadi seorang penulis memang masih jauh, untuk saat ini mungkin tulisan saya terbatas untuk konsumsi pribadi saja ...semoga saya bisa sampai ke sana yach....way to go, tin... :)

The Child Learns, The Child Teaches….

Having read several books about how certain teacher teaches their students and working together with some good teachers, I learn something about the way how we teach children

From what they have experience I learn how to a better teacher than what I am now. I value the joy of teaching and learning; being their part of life, giving something that they’ve never seen before…and hearing the ‘AHAAAAA…’ mumbling reaction in the class is something I treasure every time I’m in the class...it's like we show them something huge...something they don't imagine and something that only 'adult' know (that's what they always say every time they say ahaaaaaa...) hahhaa....it's really interesting...

I learn how to spend more time observing, listening and interact with children from Juanita V. Copley, one of committees in NCEYC (National Council of Education Young Children ? an organisation that concerns about young children education)

She has been teaching for more than 26 years. In some stages, the children’s strategies made the most different in her teaching. Their interests changed the scope of teaching content, or their particular strengths or weakness changed the sequence of instruction instead.

A long journey in her teaching has been influenced by most of her students. They have taught, given her many ideas, and broadened her beliefs about teaching.

She learned something from Timmy.

Timmy was a child with whom teachers found it difficult to work. He has shown a very short attention span and little promise in almost all subjects in the class. Juanita admitted him to a special program for ‘slow learners’
She did not have time to relate with Timmy, until one day she had him in her class. To keep him busy, she gave him a large box of electrical equipment from the sixth – grade electricity unit – such as batteries, switches, wire, and small light bulbs. Timmy was asked to sort the box’s contents as she walked out for a while.

She was really surprised after she walked into the room. Do you know what she found? Timmy had created a working electrical system, six bulbs were lit, three switches were built-in, and within the connection he had produced series and parallel circuits

She then listened to Timmy explaining about how he created such thing, which was much more than anything she could make.

What had Timmy taught Juanita?
He taught her an importance of spending time to observe, listen, and watch children. Being their friend unconditionally.

Pay attention to what they like, listen to their reasoning, ask them to explain their creation, challenge them with tasks that seem impossible, and give them opportunity to show us what they can do in their own way…it is one of the way to be a better teacher..

The other thing I learn from Erin. She was my mentor at one of child care centres when I had working experience last semester. She told me that ‘Never had favourites in class’ policy also helps us to be fair and objective as a teacher.

She had experience from Kyle

Kyle is a quiet and compliant girl. She seldom volunteered in class yet she never caused problems, never showed any particular gift for certain subjects in class.
At the end of the year, she asked each child to give her a report card for being a teacher. What do you think she got?

To her surprise, Kyle handed her a note with her own spelling stated,
‘Erin, you were real good with the dumd kids. They needed you and you halped them. You were real good with smart kids. You always keeped them buzy, but you should do better with the plane kids like me. I need to learn to! Luv, Kyle’

Yes….Kyle was right, she made Erin realized that she spent most of her time with the special children and she had ignored the ‘plain’ kids like Kyle.

And again, this experience also told me REMEMBER THAT EVERY CHILD IS IMPORTANT AND SPECIAL…never have favourites!!!!

It is my job to do my best as their teacher, for those special gifted children, those who need concentrated help to overcome difficulties, and those quiet, plain who also HAVE THE RIGHT TO LEARN….

The other thing (I would pack in this to three things which I consider are the most important…actually all things that each child teaches and says to us is important...both of us...teacher and students…we learn and teach at the same time :P)

This is my own experience…I know I’m lack of patience. I always want things running exactly as I planned, fast and perfect. I want all children to do things neat, clean and tidy. Although I’m often told that the more children got dirt on their clothes, the more they learn and enjoy their time in school…remember that the first thing to make children feel comfortable is to make them like school

I am only human. And I’m far from being normal and focus….till I face this...

We had our own lesson plan each week; our theme is about Science for that week.
Dylan is fond of earthworms. He spent countless hours only for observing them, starring at the story books for the whole day. During the week, he became obsessed with finding the earthworms’ eyes.

I was so tired of answering his questions, such as, ‘Look, they got eyes, they can see’ or ‘they blink their eyes, they move…look….come on…you have to see them moving…’ bla bla bla bla…
He kept asking for more and bigger magnifiers…

At the same time, I also need to explain and move through other activities for the day…I tried to respond him as I prepared for next session…

During the last two months, Dylan showed his interest in science especially insects. He’s often found observing insects and will remain in the same place for the whole day unless we call him for some morning tea or lunch. To be honest, I need to admit that he is one of the brightest in the class…

As he boarded to his car at the end of the day, he yelled out the window, ‘I still think they got eyes, I will tell you tomorrow’

I was smiling…and somehow...I was really proud of his curiosity…

When I heard about this, I was reminded how important it is to let children do whatever they want, to explore their mind…don’t correct every error they make…

Again, I learn that by allowing children to investigate their thought, they will learn more about something beyond our imagination. More important, because if a child is really eager to find something new, they continue to be a powerful and excited learner.

I know I still have long and winding road ahead...but these three lessons have given me a preliminary introduction about being a teacher...not only a teacher but also a friend and partner for every child…'a really teacher'

So? At least I have homework now...

First…spend time observing, listening, accompanying, and watching every single thing the children do…even if it’s countless

Second….remember that every child is important…never have favourites…provide more variety in the class that work for children with all types of needs in diverse settings….

Third….encourage every child’s curiosity and not to forget that each child constructs their own knowledge…

Never stop learning in the class…coz…we don’t only teach...but we also learn together in the class…
And the knowledge never stops...learning is a lifetime journey

FRAGILE ---- sting

If blood will flow
when flesh and steel are one
Drying in the colour
of the evening sun

Tomorrow's rain will
wash the stains away
But something in our minds
will always stay

Perhaps this final act was meant
To clinch a lifetime's argument
That nothing comes from violence
and nothing ever could

For all those born
beneath an angry star
Lest we forget how
Fragile we are

On and on
the rain will fall
Like tears from a star
like tears from a star
On and on
the rain will say
How fragile we are

MARRIAGE

* Hmm my cell phone's vibrating, 1 text message received...*

'Tin, apa kabar? baek" kan? How's life? balik ga g merit'?

*pause...hm...then started typing*

'Baek, loe? SERIUS LOE MO MERIT??? perasaan baru juga kemaren" ini yach kita ngobrol. gimana lamaran? udah sampe mana persiapan, bla bla bla. Full stop'

*few minutes later...bbbbrrrr...brr...it's vibrating so I started to set it to silent without vibrating mode*

'HE3x. lamaran lancar. something happened. and quite frustrating. I wish you were here. I want you to get back here and be my bride mate --> baca: pager ayu. hayooo balik balik.......'

*hmm...and ...guess what. I was in tears...'coz...we've been best friends for hmm 14 years til now. She is one of my best friends. Three of us grew up together, shed our tears, laugh and smile, how many hours we spent to watch same movies again and again, stay til late at night, seize the day, find some nice guys at school hahaha...and did some silly but exciting things together. Akankah ada bedanya setelah seorang sahabat memiliki hidup baru atau tidak? Apa saya akan kehilangan dia?saya rasa tidak....kembali ke individu masing"*

'I wish I could be there on your special day. God knows how much I want to see you in your wedding 'kebaya'. We designed that together. I know how hard it will be for both of you. I'm soooooo happy for you...bla bla bla....'

*no reply...and guess what? Someone called me and no number shown. I pushed the yes button...*

'Hallo????......'

*somebody replied on the phone....*

'TIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIN....males ngetik. nelp aja deh. I MISS YOU SO MUCH. I WANT YOU TO BE MY BRIDE MATE. I WANT YOU AND WINDA TO BE THERE WHEN WE SAID OUR VOW AND HE SAID THE 'IJAB KABUL'. Cepetan nyusul yach, kan dari kita betiga udah saling janji, ternyata bener yach, g yg pertama..jgn sampe loe terakhir, balik dunks, ga kerasa yach...kangen nih...undangan g anter ke rumah loe yach...bla bla bla....'

*and. we both went in tears...both for happy and sad altogether*

Dan, ada berbagai perasaan setelah itu. Yang pasti, saya turut berbahagia untuk mereka. I really do...sudah banyak kejadian yang kami lalui, dan tidak terasa sekarang apa yang dia cita"kan terkabul juga.
Saya dulu sering berpikir, apa yang membuat seseorang berani memutuskan untuk menikah? apa karena faktor usia yang dirasa cukup? pekerjaan yang mapan, dan segala macam yang lain?

Saya sering bertanya kepada teman" yang berani mengambil keputusan untuk menikah, dan jawaban mereka kebanyakan: ' feeling g yang mengatakan kalo itu adalah dia, tin. she/he is the one gitu. lagian mo ngapain lagi, makin lama tar malah makin goyah deh'
atau
'ya udah males aja pacaran terus. ngapain lama", orang pacaran lama" takutnya putus juga'

dan seribu satu jawaban lain..hmm interesting....

dan saya juga sering ditanya :P 'kapan nyusul?' hahaha...saya hanya bisa tersenyum
'nantilah..tunggu aja surprisenya huaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa'

yang saya tau 'saya belum berani berbagi. dalam arti, saya masih ingin menikmati diri saya untuk diri saya sendiri, setidaknya untuk saat ini mungkin...

anyway, for Di n Kak Baki...wish both of you all the best for your wedding preparation...I know how hard your way to get here....sorry I could not be there on your special day...I wish....

Cartoon Character

kalau saya ditanya, cartoon character apa yang paling saya suka? jawabannya..

The one and only Winnie the Pooh :)

dan apabila ditanya alasan kenapa saya suka? hmm...pada dasarnya saya suka karena winnie itu selalu ceria, baik hati, suka memberikan nasihat, dan suka menolong teman"nya. dan dalam setiap film ato ceritanya, pasti ada pesan moral tertentu...percaya deh..coz I've watched most of them :P. Pesan yang disampaikan itu sederhana, bahkan cenderung agak" aneh.
Kadang memang suka sok tau dia :P tapi mungkin itulah ciri khas winnie the pooh...and that's what me looooveeee him so much...

yang suka winnie the pooh pasti banyak juga deh yach, tapi..

How did Winnie the Pooh become the tubby little cubby all stuffed with fluff as we know him now? I'll tell you then...have a read...

In 1914, during World War 1, troops from Winnipeg (Manitoba, Canada) were being transported to eastern Canada on their way overseas to Europe. When the train stopped at White River, Ontario, there was a trapper standing on the platform with a bear cub. One of the soldiers, Harry Colebourn, was serving in the Canadian Army at the time. He saw a man cradling a tiny orphaned black bear cub, and bought it for $20. and named her "Winnipeg", or "Winnie" for short.

The bear became the Canadian Army's mascot. Winnie was put in the care of London Zoo, in Regent's Park, because Harry Colebourn and the other Canadian soldiers had to go to France after England.

When Lieutenant Colebourn came back from France, he found that Winnie was having such a wonderful time at the Zoo and became very popular with the children and was well known for her playful nature. He decided to let him stay there forever. Winnie lived until 1934.

Christopher Robin was one of Winnie's greatest fans, and was allowed to go inside the cage with him. Here is a passage from the introduction to "Winnie the Pooh".
So when Christopher Robin goes to the Zoo, he goes to where the Polar Bears are, and he whispers something to the third keeper from the left, and doors are unlocked, and we wander through dark passages and up steep stairs, until at last we come to the special cage, and the cage is opened, and out trots something brown and furry, and with a happy cry of "Oh, Bear!" Christopher Robin rushes into its arms.

Since Christopher Robin loved Winnie so much, he renamed the bear that he had received for his 1st birthday, Edward Bear, and called him Winnie the Bear. A poem from "When We Were Very Young" tells that Christopher Robin met a swan, and called him Pooh, but the swan has gone now, so Christopher Robin changed Winnie the Bear to Winnie the Pooh in honor of the swan.

The little boy's father, Alan Alexander Milne (knowing of his son's attraction to the bear, would often tell him bedtime stories about the bear and a make-believe world along with Christopher Robin's other toys, Piglet, Tigger, Eeyore, Kanga and Roo. The little boy was a featured character in most of those stories. His father went on to write a series of books about "Winnie-the-Pooh" (the bear from Winnipeg), Christopher Robin and their friends at "100-Aker Wood".

A. A. Milne also made up the characters Rabbit and Owl, based on real animal living in the Forest. In the stories, Asdown Forest was called the Hundred Acre Woods. "Winnie the Pooh" was published in 1926, followed by "The House at Pooh Corner" in 1928.

POOH FACT:
In 1961, The Pooh stories were first told to Walt Disney children and he used Pooh in a movie since then.

In 1966 "Winnie the Pooh and the Honey Tree" was a big success

In 1968 "Winnie the Pooh and the Blustery Day" won an Academy award

In 1974 another Pooh movie was made, called "Winnie the Pooh and Tigger Too".

And more Winnie the pooh movies are made til now... (Remember Tigger and Pigglet Movie?)

Pooh was bought at Harrods, London by Christopher Robin's mom, Daphne Milne, for his 1st b'day. He is now on display with Tigger, Roo, Pigglet, Eeyore, and Kanga in New York Public Library

Ernest H. Shepard, who illustrated "Winnie the Pooh" and "House at the Pooh Corner" based on his son's teddy bear (Growler) drawings. These drawings are on display at The Victoria and Albert Museum in London

*diambil dari beberapa sumber*

Geez, I have to go to those two places someday...I will!!!!someday....

saya rela menahan diri untuk give up something just for Pooh atau semua yang berhubungan dengan winnie the pooh...saya mempunyai nama untuk tiap pooh saya, saya tau 'sejarah' mereka. Saya rela tidur di lantai hanya karena tempat tidur saya dipenuhi winnie the pooh :P, saya rela membeli winnie the pooh kesayangan padahal it was really costly at that time...atau...saya rela tidak memakan coklat winnie the pooh hadiah salah satu teman sampai jamuran (some silly things that I did hahaha)

Ibu saya sering bertanya, 'mau diapain tuh anak"mu dan barang sebanyak itu??' Ibu saya selalu menyebut boneka" saya itu adalah anak" saya :) dan Beliau tidak pernah lupa mengingatkan saya untuk 'berpamitan' dengan mereka atau membawa pooh kesayangan kalau saya bepergian...
*I love you mama*

saya juga bingung, ada rasa sayang dan tidak rela untuk disumbangkan ^_^
'buat koleksi aja' atau 'buat anak" nanti' itu selalu yang jadi alasan saya.

Ayah saya bahkan lebih ekstrim lagi, Beliau wanti" kalau saya tidak boleh lagi membeli barang" berbau winnie the pooh lagi sekarang kalau tidak... ....(upps....off the record)......
okay, so sorry for that. no more papa...I spend my money for anything but Winnie now.. :) *to be honest...i'm trying not to :P* ...

teman"? wah tidak perlu disebut lagi. istilah mereka mulai dari, "masa kecil kurang bahagia, saya membuat kebun binatang di rumah dan kamar saya, hobi tidak berguna, apa sih enaknya dan bagusnya winnie the pooh tuh? dan lain".

Tanggapan saya? tidak peduli...winnie the pooh tetap nomor satu hahahaha

Sayangnya? oleh" atau hadiah yang diberikan untuk saya kebanyakan winnie the pooh karena? 'Gampang kan? loe pasti suka n ga mungkin nolak koq, tin' Tidak kreatif sekali mereka itu :)

saya juga punya mimpi untuk membuat rumah saya bertemakan Winnie the Pooh...impian tak sampai seperti kata orang". heiii? what's wrong with that??? having dreams is normal i reckon

sayangnya sekarang, saya sudah tidak begitu mengikuti perkembangan winnie the pooh lagi. walaupun saya tetap saja tidak pernah bisa menahan diri kalau sudah melihat semua aksesoris winnie the pooh dan teman"nya....

so? which cartoon character do you like? bisa share dengan cara dan kebiasaan mengoleksi mereka mungkin?

BERTAHAN HIDUP

ada beberapa kejadian menarik yang berhubungan dengan 'how to survive' yang saya lihat belakangan ini

1. seorang ibu" berpakaian seperti peri dan berpantomim di tengah" pertokoan. Ia tersenyum, mengerling dan kadang tertawa. di depannya ada sebuah kotak yang di desain dengan bagusnya. Yang menarik perhatian saya adalah ibu ini membuat pesan tertulis di depan kotak tersebut, bunyinya: 'Hi, I'm an angel. I am here to make your wish come true. Make a wish and throw your coin to the box. But, remember, Angel prefers gold coin :)'
--> artinya? dia minta supaya orang" memberi uang dalam bentuk yang lebih besar.

2. tiga orang anak"(dua laki", satu perempuan) masih dengan motif sama, mencari sesuap nasi sambil menghibur. kali ini mereka membawa beberapa alat musik, walaupun terlihat sangat tidak pantas untuk dimainkan karena sudah tua sekali kelihatannya. ada catatan kecil juga, bunyinya: ' Our dad usually plays with us, but he's in jail for 15months because of driving without license'
yg menarik perhatian adalah, mereka bisa memainkan alat musik. yang perempuan memetik gitar, yang lelaki memainkan drum dan harmonika (fyi, anak ini memakai kaki palsu dan terlihat bekas operasi di kaki kirinya, dan dia kurus sekali hiks)

Memang suara mereka tidak begitu harmonis tapi tetap saja mereka berhasil mencuri perhatian orang" yang melewati jalan itu....dan hmm cukup banyak coin yang mereka dapatkan lho :)

3. di depan sebuah Mal, ada seorang lelaki memainkan biola, penampilannya? asli berantakan dan cuek. tapi yang perlu dihargai adalah niatnya untuk mencari uang dengan memainkan biola dan dia terlihat profesional sekali waktu memainkan itu...sempat membuat saya kagum, coz..i adore and 'love' someone who knows how to play music instruments huhuhuhuhuhuhuuhu......

dari ketiga contoh di atas, satu kesimpulan yang coba saya ambil. Mereka mencoba untuk bertahan hidup dengan cara mereka masing". patut diacungi jempol karena mereka tidak hanya meminta", tapi meminta dengan memberikan sesuatu...menghibur dengan kreativitas dan keahlian masing", entah itu berpantomim, bertahan diam di tempat, memainkan alat musik padahal mereka orphan, atau memainkan alat musik yang tidak mudah untuk dimainkan...butuh pengorbanan dan usaha keras yang pasti untuk itu.

melihat semua itu, saya berpikir, wah seringkali saya masih terus saja tidak puas dengan keadaan dan meminta lebih dari yang telah diberikan sekarang. padahal untuk mereka, dan banyak contoh lain yang tidak saya lihat, bertahan hidup sehari saja susah rasanya..klasik sekali yach? tapi issue ini emang terus dan akan selalu diangkat karena manusia tidak pernah berenti untuk berpuas diri dan menerima diri...

Jerry Maguire: the story of Gender, Emotion, and Caring

One of my courses this semester is about "CHILD DEVELOPMENT", it discusses about what is each child personality traits for each age, and what are the significant changes for every group of age. One of the chapters is about GENDER

On my last lecture, we watched "Jerry Maguire" one of my fav movies.

And, despite what the story is, this movie is a good example in terms of gender. How it reflects the role of gender in emotions and relationships.

In brief, I'll tell you about the story and what it's related to child development especially gender

Maybe most of you have watched this movie. The movie is a 'buddy' picture with sports agent Jerry Maguire (played beautifully by Tom Cruise) paired with two buddies: Rod (the too short Arizona Cardinals wide receiver, played by Cuba Gooding, Jr), and 6-years-old Ray (the son of Jerry's love interest which is his accountant Dorothy (played by Renée Zellweger).

Through his two buddies, Jerry (which is most likely to be the thinking-but-not feeling guy) discovers the right path by connecting to Ray's emotional honestly and black American Rod's devotion to his family.

Conversely, through Jerry, the emotionally flamboyant and self-centred Rod discovers that he must bring passion back to his game to be successful.

The image of nurturing and nurtured males is shown throughout this movie. And to be honest, I cry every time I watch this movie...*what a shame :p*

How Jerry's relationship with Ray is a significant theme. Through discovering a caring relationship with this 6 little years old boy, Jerry makes his first genuine move toward emotional maturity. And the funny part is, the boy is Jerry's guide. Another good example is Chad (Ray's babysitter), who became the good example of appropriate caring by a male.

It is often told that crying is a shame for boys. That's why boys tend to hide their emotional expression (for boys...cmon...crying is not something to be ashamed of...)

And again, in this movie, we can find that crying is really 'normal' for Males. That Jerry shed tears while writing his mission statement, when thinking about Dorothy's possible move to another city, which also means that he will lose Ray for sure, and at Rod's succeeds. And when Rod cried as he spoke to his family.

And historically, despite crying, weeping, more than any emotional expression, has been associated with feminine emotion. Remember that our parents used to say "hayo, anak laki ga boleh nangis, or...malu ah anak laki kok nangis...”
It has increasingly taken on a more prominent role in the males' emotional makeup instead.

This movie reflects changes in gender roles as an increasing number of males show an interest in improving their social relationships and achieving emotional maturity.

Stephanie Shields (one of young children's expert), mentioned that overall females are more competent in dealing with their social relationships than males.

Hmm...What a movie...and the other thing is...I love the soundtrack....

*SECRET GARDEN* by Bruce Springsteen

she’ll let you in her house
If you come knockin' late at night
She'll let you in her mouth if the
Words you say are right

If you pay the price
She'll let you deep inside
But there's a secret garden she hides

She'll let you in her car
To go drivin' round
She'll let you into the parts of herself
That'll bring you down

She'll let you in her heart
If you got a hammer and a vise
But into her secret garden, don't think twice

You've gone a million miles
How far'd you get to that place where
You can't remember and you can't forget

She'll lead you down a path
There'll be tenderness in the air
She'll let you come just far enough
So you know she's really there
She'll look at you and smile
And her eyes will say
She's got a secret garden
Where everything you want
Where everything you need
Will always stay a million miles away

Sebelum kamu mengeluh
-dari seorang sahabat-

Hari ini sebelum kamu mengatakan kata-kata yang tidak baik,
Pikirkan tentang seseorang yang tidak dapat berbicara sama sekali

Sebelum kamu mengeluh tentang rasa dari makananmu,
Pikirkan tentang seseorang yang tidak punya apapun untuk dimakan.

Sebelum kamu mengeluh tidak punya apa-apa
Pikirkan tentang seseorang yang meminta-minta di jalanan.

Sebelum kamu mengeluh bahwa kamu buruk,
Pikirkan tentang seseorang yang berada pada tingkat yang terburuk di dalam hidupnya.

Sebelum kamu mengeluh tentang suami atau istri anda.
Pikirkan tentang seseorang yang memohon kepada Tuhan untuk diberikan teman hidup

Hari ini sebelum kamu mengeluh tentang hidupmu,
Pikirkan tentang seseorang yang meninggal terlalu cepat

Sebelum kamu mengeluh tentang anak-anakmu,
Pikirkan tentang seseorang yang sangat ingin mempunyai anak tetapi dirinya mandul

Sebelum kamu mengeluh tentang rumahmu yang kotor karena pembantumu tidak mengerjakan tugasnya,
Pikirkan tentang orang-orang yang tinggal di jalanan

Sebelum kamu mengeluh tentang jauhnya kamu telah menyetir,
Pikirkan tentang seseorang yang menempuh jarak yang sama dengan berjalan.

Dan disaat kamu lelah dan mengeluh tentang pekerjaanmu,
Pikirkan tentang pengangguran,orang-orang cacat yang berharap mereka mempunyai pekerjaan seperti kamu

Sebelum kamu menunjukkan jari dan menyalahkan orang lain,
ingatlah bahwa tidak ada seorangpun yang tidak berdosa,,,

Kita semua menjawab kepada Tuhan

Dan ketika kamu sedang bersedih dan hidupmu dalam kesusahan,
Tersenyum dan mengucap syukurlah kepada Tuhan bahwa kamu masih hidup !
Life is a gift
Live it...
Enjoy it...
Celebrate it...
And fulfill it.

Cintai orang lain dengan perkataan dan perbuatanmu
Cinta diciptakan tidak untuk disimpan atau disembunyikan
Anda tidak mencintai seseorang karena dia cantik atau tampan,
Mereka cantik/tampan karena anda mencintainya,,,

It's true you don't know what you've got until it's gone, but..
it's also true You don't know what you've been missing until it arrives!!!

*memang benar yach? kadang kita terlalu memperhatikan hal yang tidak semestinya, sedangkan hal yang ada di depan mata terlewatkan. Dan, hal yang obvious sekali dalam diri setiap manusia adalah..susah untuk berempati dengan orang lain. ingat, human is the most selfish gene, ever!!!!*

for xu".thanks yach..worth reading koq :P)

salah persepsi

sering kita menyalahartikan perhatian ataupun uluran pertemanan orang lain. berusaha untuk berpikir positif dan tidak menaruh curiga apapun.

Siapa tahu ada udang di balik batu dari tawaran itu???

jadi? mungkin benar.

Hoping for the best and Preparing for the worst to come sometimes is true...

takkukiratakkudugasemuaadatujuannyateganyateganya, hikshiks...

KEJUTAN

senang sekali rasanya hari ini kembali ke sekolah....

dan banyak surprise yang saya dapatkan hari ini.

Hal yang paling membahagiakan kita salah satunya adalah pengakuan dan penerimaan dan penghargaan.

Seperti hari ini, saya baru masuk kelas, tiba" Chloe langsung menghampiri saya dan berkata, "Tanti, How are you?.Selamat Pagi" dengan terpatah" tapi itu cukup membuat saya terharu. Gila, baru pertama kali saya ajarkan tuh beberapa minggu yang lalu, dan dia berusaha untuk ngomong walaupun pertama kali saya tidak mengerti maksudnya.

Waktu rest time, Nicky meminta saya untuk hmm 'tickle n cuddle' her *sorry, ga tau bhs indonesianya apa
dan tau apa yang dia ucapkan tidak lama setelah itu, "I like you. You tickle me just like the way my mum do it", sambil memeluk pinggang saya.

Pada waktu lagi free time, rekan saya menyiapkan salah satu section kelas untuk tracing, dan menulis nama mereka. Taylah menghampiri saya, "Tanti, this is how to write your name. It's easy, but your name is strange".

Saya? ada rasa yang tidak bisa saya ungkapkan untuk kejadian hari ini. Belakangan ini, saya memang sedang diliputi kebingungan dan suasana hati yang tidak menentu, hal" itu membuat semua menguap, lupa kalau hari" saya belakangan diliputi awan gelap.

Dan, hal pertama yang saya lakukan sesampainya di rumah? saya langsung berbagi kebahagiaan ini dan mengirim pesan melalui telepon seluler saya untuk sahabat sehati. Benar bukan kata saya? Dunia anak" itu begitu berwarna, begitu indah untuk diceritakan dan tidak pernah habis untuk digali dan dibagikan kepada orang lain.

Duuuuuuuuuuuuuuh, saya bener" cinta deh sama mereka...semoga pilihan saya tidak salah yach....

PF: much love for my green room for erasing 'all my dark clouds' away today...